Mending Bridges
How do you go about mending bridges when the factors in the fractured relationship are obscured by unknown forces and potential cognitive dissonance?
When a person doesn’t “look” but does “listen” there are strong chances that what they are listening to may be based on false assumptions.
Wars have been kindled and fought because of communication breakdowns fractured by opinionated yet unfounded discussions over the “real intentions” of the protagonists.
It could also be based on matters of principle which are built on weak foundations.
Then there is the mystery. The “why”. It is so easy to fill a vacuum of uncertainty with invented assumptions.
So, I’ve answered my own question. The only way a bridge can be mended so it can once again carry “things” from one side to the other is by direct communication/action. The right questions and good listening skills.
But underlying all of this one has to ask the question “Is it worth putting the energy, time and resources into mending this broken bridge?”.
Then on the other hand it is also possible that time will heal the broken bridge. A bit like a pinched nerve that hurts so much that you are bent over in pain. The body will more than likely eventually heal the inflammation that exacerbates the problem and slowly, ever so slowly things will return to normal and then down the track the pain is just a faint and distant memory.
The pattern repeats itself throughout history. Nations go to war and kill tens of thousands of each others citizens and then 50 years down the track they are allies with no animosity or even conscious memory of what went down in the past. Friendships collapse, some are rebuilt, rekindled so that energy and light emanate once more but then there are others where the fuel is simply too damp to re-ignite.
To finish, maybe there are even times when the bridge ceases to serve a purpose and the bridge is no longer needed.
It’s all a matter of observation, necessity, weighing up the pros and cons.
